“Maybe the point of problems is to give us an excuse to come together.”
This provocative statement from Peter Block, a highly regarded author and consultant, flips our traditional view of challenges on its head. Instead of seeing problems as something to be “fixed,” Block invites us to view them as a catalyst for connection. This perspective offers immense value, not just for organizations and communities, but also as a powerful framework for coaching.
Think about it: clients typically seek coaching when they’re grappling with a challenge. They’re not “broken”; they’re reaching out for partnership to navigate a tricky time. Many of us were raised with the ingrained belief that we must “stand on our own two feet” and “go it alone,” as if there’s inherent virtue in rugged individualism. Yet, what we often truly yearn for is connection—someone to talk through difficulties with, to feel heard, to commiserate, and to celebrate. Our challenges can become a gateway to a rich connection with another human.
One of my clients beautifully articulated this, referring to me as her “benevolent witness.” This isn’t about solving their problems for them, but rather about providing a non-judgmental, supportive space where they can explore their thoughts and feelings, gaining clarity on what they truly want to do. This kind of external partnership is incredibly valuable when navigating uncertainty.
The Profound Power of Self-Connection
Beyond connecting with others, viewing challenge as a catalyst also opens up a profound opportunity for connection with the self. Through my own journey and working with countless clients, I’ve seen firsthand that getting clear on your own values and needs is the essential first step—the bedrock of confidence. Without this self-clarity, it’s all too easy to fall into the trap of trying to anticipate what others want from us, leading to an exhausting and confidence-eroding guessing game. When you understand your own internal compass, navigating external pressures becomes far more grounded and authentic.
Embrace the Opportunity
Reframing a challenge as an opportunity to connect—with yourself and with others—unlocks new possibilities. Whether you’re in the thick of a difficult situation right now, or you anticipate one on the horizon, consider consciously seeking these connections. They won’t just help you navigate through; they’ll deeply enrich your life.
What connection might a current challenge be inviting you to explore?
Ó Anne Garing, PhD & Peg Hunt, MS
For more from Peter Block, read “Community: The Structure of Belonging,” which advocates for shifting focus from problems to possibilities, encouraging individuals and groups to build genuine connections and take ownership for creating thriving communities.